I didn’t imply, I explicitly stated it. The quality of employees is better here, not different better. San Diego has one of the highest percentages of college educated people in the nation. Despite what people say about SoCal in general and San Diego in particular companies come here because in lots of other places they can’t find the kind of employees they need. If all you need is people on a production line, you can get those anywhere. When it comes to thinkers though, they want to live in nice places. San Diego is one of the nicest.
You can point to all sorts of negatives and to your credit you have. I for one am not suprised that an engineer in WI makes what he would here, that his home is cheaper his wife can stay at home. You can do those here too, you just have to make more. Its all whats important to you.
As to long commutes, that is something that most people volunteer for when the move here. Rather than live in a smaller house and consume less of the Earths resources; they want to live like they did in the mid-west. Isn’t that why people live in the mid-west? (Big cars, big pants sizes, lots of room between you and your neighbors.)
Oh and I know my neighbors. I don’t love all of them, but I know them, but thats just me.