I agree to the contentment issue and that either way, being single or married, is not make or break deal.Isolation beyond ones tolerances would probably be as grim as a hate filled marriage with kids. But you don’t have to marry to avoid that, as you know.
Spontaneity is the biggest tradeoff I have made to be married. I am not talking about the freedom to be a player, but just to do what I want or nothing at all, when I feel like it. You have to direct your creativity and entertainment interests to things that are compatible with family or they pay a price. If your interest and other conditions don’t allow for this it’s bad news.
I give each individual the credit of being able able to figure out if marriage and family life or single living is complimentary to their own existence and conscience, or not. Sometimes the process of figuring it out is an unaswered life long experience and sometimes people seem to just get it right quickly and there is everything in between.Hopefully we don’t have a vasectomy or a brood of rugrats or both, before we figure it out.