Now, I’m a typical husband, meaning 90% of time I follow her wishes (commands?).
Not on housing, at least not in a market like this.
Staying long housing (in this market) would lose too much of any family’s nest egg. My wife whined and whined about not wanting to sell our condo. She threw tantrums. My best friend who is an investment banker, got the same from his wife.
We told both our wives, “NO. You’re going to follow my direction on this one, because otherwise we going to lose hundreds of thousands in this housing market. That’s final decision.”
My wife understood she was either going to follow me on the housing decision OR I was moving into a hotel to let her sleep alone until she comes around. I’m serious.
She followed my advice. We sold the house. We saved a hundred grand (and more). She now respects me even more. She has bragged to her parents and friends, “My husband is really smart. We sold our house before the market crashed.”
My investment banker friend had the same experience.
Women like to run the house, and have their husband’s follow 95% of time.
Women also like their men on rare occasion in urgent situations to stand up, take charge and direct the family exactly what they are going to do to avoid a catastrophe. No discussion. The husband’s responsibility is to objectively understand those few situations where he has the experience and wisdom to spot the impending danger/catastrophe and help the family avoid it. All other times he generally keeps his mouth shut and listens to his wife.
