Yeah you definitely don’t want to do major man woman battle over the curtains and quilts and other frilly stuff…that could be devastating.
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I have friends who ended up in this situation. Not something I want. That’s not baggage but it’s a non-workable compatibility issue.
Also not baggage, but I wouldn’t get married to a woman who wants to move to Spokane, WA (or Lakeside, Santee or Poway) to be near her parents. Not baggage, but still a no-go.
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Is a previous divorce too much baggage? Having too little relationship experience for your age, Maybe that’s too much baggage to some people…maybe worse than a past addiction or crime or debt or herpes. If people having any of these issues is unloveable there isn’t much love around.[/quote]
Like I said, you have to define baggage.
Previous divorce is not baggage. But if the previous spouse has problems and comes around to pester you, then it is baggage.
Some people like virgins so that’s not baggage… But it could be a non-workable issue for people who want experienced spouses.
I separate personality issues from baggage. Baggage is extra weight you carry that’s not inherent to the person, like herpes, criminal history, crazy family, drug dealing friends, disease, etc… Baggage that the person is unable or unwilling to dispose of.
Maybe people who have baggage can get together and “exchange”. But for someone who is clean, it’s just too much of a burden to acquire someone else’s baggage. It’s easier to find someone without.
Back to real estate… when you buy a house with baggage, it’s much cheaper. You can fix up and improve. But a person with baggage is more expensive just because it’s costly to shed baggage. They also may have mental problems what cause spendthrift behavior such as shopping for expensive Louis Vuitton luggage that you have to pay for.[/quote]
love is blind and crazy. Or maybe that’s syphilis.
