I got news for you…You go to any any top notch school, with parents from the same social/economic background, the parents end up being all the same.
It’s not just the asian immigrants that are doing this. The asian tiger mom stereotype, though exists, is very much alive in a well-do white family too.
My kid that goes to the same CarmelV elementary school that has white friends who parents are doctors and lawyers and engineers who are very much in as much a tiger-mom/dad as any other asian tiger parent.
What’s more interesting on my observation is that while among the asian families I know where both parents both a full time job, a lot of the well-to-do white families have a stay-at-home parent, which spends almost the ENTIRE DAY shuffling the kid around from school to enrichment programs to sports to everything else they possibly can cram into one day…The say stay-at-home parent are the ones that constantly volunteer as class parent (which I find admirable, frankly) because they want to know what their kids are doing. And they were the first ones that approached the teacher and told the teacher “the work you are assigning is too easy for my kid, my kid is bored. And if you don’t make the work more challenging for my kid, it’s going to be a problem.”
So I’m not sure why some folks think this entire tiger-parent thing is strictly an asian thing. If at all, it’s more of a social/economic thing.[/quote]
When I refer to tiger moms, I mean those that literally force their kids to do 6+ hours of work every night, even at the expense of sleep. Not those parents who simply want their kids to maintain a 4.0, get into a decent college, and make them do the work necessary for that. I define success as happiness – not being a Harvard med grad AND an orchestra violinist with no memory of ever flying a kite in the park, unless that’s what will make them happy. Race has nothing to do with my opinion on the subject, but since you bring it up, I don’t doubt many rich white families make their kids go through that. I will be avoiding those schools, too.
