[quote=flu][quote=outtamojo][quote=flu]You’re son probably isn’t a bully, but it doesn’t sound like the other kid is ok with receiving these jokes either. I guess my initial thought was if this other kid was fine with the horseplay, why isn’t he dishing it out himself, and why would talk to his dad about it? I mean, @ junior high, you are smart enough to figure out what is considered PC and what isn’t. So if this was really just horsing around, the last thing I would want is to share it with my parents. It would be like hearing a funny, yet crude sex joke in middle school, and then going home and sharing it with your parents. Ewe…
That said, it would probably be in your son’s best interest to lay off the “little bitch” and the “yo mama” jokes at school. Eventually, it’s bound to be overheard his female peers, and then he’ll be in deep shit with the school’s administrators.[/quote]
Yeah, I told him if he keeps this up and it gets to an administrator it could mean the end of his basketball career there.
As for the other kid, son says he kept coming back and trying to join their group; glutton for punishment or clueless? I mean why keep coming back to his group, there must be plenty of other better, more PC cliques or church group to hang with right?
I think I’ll tell my son to just say hi and bye and stay away from that kid for his own protection – my son has always been edgy and South-Park and I can’t totally trust him to resist off color behavior that may reach the wrong ears.[/quote]
The problem with social media is that once someone takes a gopro and films someone do some uncanny behavior, it will stick with that person indefinitely.Also, in the ultra-PC environment we are currently in, the backlash is enormous. There’s plenty of examples of it that has happened. I’d suggest perhaps you might show some of those to your son as an example. I recall there was two guys at a tech conference that was making stupid sexual jokes privately. Apparently, some woman sitting nearby got all offended by it. But rather than confront the two guys, she took a picture of it, it and put it on social media, I guess as a mean of social shaming. And the backlash was enormous. First the two guys (who were just geeks making stupid jokes were both married) we subsequently fired. The woman, also fired from her job for eavesdropping on a private conversation and posting something supposedly private in social media (more likely because some hacker group broke into her employer’s system and threatened to publicly post her employer’s client list if she wasn’t fired).
As far as a sense of humor. Well, there’s nothing wrong with being a class clown. You just got to do it in a way that doesn’t piss off 1/2 the population, especially considering whe he’s in 8th grade, he’s going to be interested in that 1/2 of the population.
Meanwhile, tell him to go work and bulk up if he gets pushed around. Chicks will dig it once he gets into high school if he’s a buff jock. Take him to the gym yourself if you have to. I wish I learned that.[/quote]
Maybe too much if me us rubbing off on my son. I’ve always maintained those smiling assassins like Adria whom most consider polite company are actually the meanest people around. We had a family discussion about inappropriate language and little sister says yeah you should be more like Landon and his sister, they NEVER say bad words. Son says, OK so you want me to go and shoot innocent animals for fun on weekends too? ( they are church-going hunters) I had no answer to that and had to end with “just don’t be mean to people”…sigh.
