Doesn’t it feel better to see the light? But we wont be “sending” anyone, you still gotta go out and find them. I hate to give up all my “how to meet women” tricks because knowledge is power, but I guess it wont hurt, here are my favorites:
1) get a wingman or a posse, make sure there is at least one fairly dumb, good looking guy in it. We call him the “bait” and you can be the hook. He brings em in, but he’ll fail to keep their interest. In my posse, we actually call him “bait” as his nickname. It helps if he is marginally employed as well.
2) Roll with your possee to places that other posse’s don’t roll. Avoid sporting events and bars. Groups of dudes do that, you need to be where groups of women go and dudes don’t go. Women travel in packs, it’s primal, single women never go anywhere alone. Wineries, festivals, cruises (the 3 day ones), palm springs. Find a single female friend and ask her where she would take a girlfriend to be supportive after a break up, then go there.
3) The gym, especially in January or February. But stay away from the weight stacks, go with the cardio and the classes. Pilates, yoga, spin, and kickboxing. go between 5 and 7 pm, go during monday night football, it’s a chick fest. When in the classes and at the cardio, don’t strike up a conversation or take a spot next to the hot chick, just play it cool for a while, after a few classes, and after she says hello, then it’s time to talk, don’t look like you are a player just be in the right place and always offer to open doors, put away equipment but in a gentlemanly way. Think Bond, not Bluto.
4) Stores- grocery and clothing. Shop after 5 p.m., smaller markets, gourmet places, department stores, etc. Time of day is key, after work and weekends, don’t be James Bond here, self depricating jokes are acceptable here, asking innocent questions is fine in this environment. Don;t be cheesy, be real.
5) Big parties, weddings, street fairs, block parties, these are all good. I especially like cooking and/or dance classes. You end up meeting them and learn to cook or dance the tango at the same time, you don’t just have to meet them, you have to be an interesting guy in order to keep them.
That’s all I can think of right now, CAR and Ricechex, you guys are right, some criteria are fine but too many can be restrictive. There isn’t a woman out there that doesn’t have something that is beautiful or wonderful about here and there isn’t a woman out there that doesn’t have something wrong with her either. Since you can;t have it all, have what is important to you and compatability is weird, it cannot always be predicted.
