Do you mean the process of evaluating the prospects and even when you choose the perfect one for you, there are still lingering doubts. Then after you choose, once the die is cast, you still peek at the other, especially those that appear which were not available when you made your choice.
I see your point but I’m going to disagree, it’s just buying a house, it’s just a big decision, nothing more. You see, I come from a set of experiences where buying houses has a positive pavlovian feel. The process was a positive one, so I’m not afraid of it. Marriage on the other hand evokes a far different set of emotions, most of them negative. Buying a house has always (and likely always will) been a positive for my balance sheet over the long haul, marriage has had the opposite effect.
Houses are not as absolute, if I go and stay at a hotel in Hawaii for a week, sleep in another bed, my house doesn’t get mad. If I buy a vacation home or a rental on the side, I wont upset my main house. Most importantly, my house wont choose another owner while I am at work, it won’t decide that someone else is better at mowing the lawn or painting the fences and lock me out.
The process itself is one sided, it is just a matter of choosing, marriage is not just a matter of choosing. Sure you can view both online, but houses don’t have to choose you back. Take it from a guy who has dabbled in internet dating, usually the pictures of the house on Redfin are recetn and accurate representations of what you will find if you schedule a tour, the taxes, liens, the year it was built and the square footage are usually pretty accurate. Online dating, not so much.
