[quote=Coronita][quote=deadzone]Well flu you just have a chip on your shoulder in my opinion. You are successful and financially better off than 99.x% of Americans. If those examples of “racism” you are providing is the worst things that have happened to you, then you’ve had a pretty good life. You don’t think white people get screwed by D-bag office politics? And those other examples of racial insults are pretty benign in the scheme of things. The same Karen that insulted you by asking you if you speak English is just as likely to insult myself or other non-Asians that they don’t like or agree with in some other way. D-bags will be D-bags and Karens will be Karens. But I’m tired of people throwing out the Racism word all the time. It is tired and overused.[/quote]
I dont know, i guess one could call it a chip on the shoulder. i view it as motivation to self improve. I like proving people wrong and winning. I dont like to like to settle and go with the flow and pick up a participation trophy for just showing up. But call it what you want, bias, unconscious bias, stereotypes, they exist. And like i said, best way to combat it is not to ask government to effect policy. that doesnt work..The best thing to do is dont support the people that dont support you.
I dont see why this is so difficult for some people to understand. Its different if someone is content with going with the flow, even if they are stuck in neutral at a job. Some people dont care. Like my ex coworker that didnt care about his work since he was running his real estate business which was considerably more lucrative. But then occasionally i run into people who arent happy with where they are at financially but at the same time dont want to move onto better opportunity elsewhere. I dont get it.[/quote]
Allow me to explain.
My dad was at the same sales job for 50 years and didn’t like it much. His dad started the business.
I recall he once talked about possibly moving from the east coast to SD to sell real estate in SD in the 80s. Seriously. His buddy was doing well at it. Or maybe it was the 70s. I remember thinking, he’s not going.
Might’ve been a different life. Escape the past. But he was locked in. He had his routine. Rent controlled apt. Knew the deal. Friends. Played handball, then paddlball just down the street. Serious roots.
In reality I don’t think he could’ve left. I bet he would’ve been happier leaving. In some ways.
Good salesman. Engaging. Genuine. Thoughtful.
Intrigued by people. Others found him funny. Not me. But other people.
I think roots do keep people in place.
I myself am currently considering moving for a potential opportunity.
The prospect of change scares scaredyclassic.
Even though it could be great. It could be bad.
“My boy was just like me, yeah. He’d grown up just like me. And the cats in the cradle and the silver spoon, little boy blue and the man I n the moon. When you coming home son I don’t know when but we’ll get together then dad you know we’ll have a good time then.”
When I think of the tales of my bold immigrant ancestors, I wonder, wtf happened to us…I wonder if they’d be proud, disgusted or amazed with me. I doubt seriously they’d have any time or sympathy for my bs. I do feel grateful for their past risk taking and successes. Those wild hardworking, tough old humans. Where would I be without their fearless intrepid search for a better life.
Certainly not in existence I’ll tell you that.
Thank you, ancestors.
PS they definitely thought people were out to get the Jews. Maybe some fear and disgust with others does spur us to greater success.
