Car renter the more hours was referring strictly to out of home work, I should have been more clear but I thought going on to talk about domestic work as separate made it clear enough.
As far as how much stay at home people men and women work, I am going to believe my lying eyes not the results of self reporting based studies. I can call taking my kids to soccer practice and the library work, Do you call those things work? do the people in the survey? Paying bills and shopping might be work but the only stress or risk is boredom ….I would rate those at about .25 per hour of any kind of real work at most. Putting kids in child watch at the gym and doing a few exercise classes work? Well yeah because its the spouse fault we need to stay so relaxed and amazing looking. I used myself as and example with some extra bs thrown in there but I could make similar comments about all the sahparents including those homeschooling. I run into lots of them at the gym!
As a SAHD I volunteer in my kid’s classes. In one case I help the teacher with small reading groups about 5 kids. The teacher who is about my age is dealing with 25 something kids all the curriculum, the parents, the volunteers and the administration. She has a real job not me. Has a real job like working people do. MY hour doesn’t count like hers does. Other times I count laps while kids jog….same thing , it’s not the same as a job.
From a work basis what gets done at home is important but very light. There are issues with staying at home to consider like lack of prestige and risk of not being able to get a career on track again and other things but it is a choice and calculated risk for most of us. The fact that you can’t get fired from staying at home or have to deal with other work place problems and risks are factors too.
In no way am I saying you are covering for anything in your own home, I am saying you are biased when you state these imbalances towards women as being norms.
On the whole If there is a difference in work being done, or say important value added, in most households it’s splitting hairs, or over reasonable time it evens out. I don’t take sides over split hairs. UCgal painted the true picture.
