Can I retract my statement about sending the kids to public school, at the time I said that, the details about the special needs hadn’t been mentioned. In retrospect, the rest of the advice still stands, perhaps more so. Your wife needs you alive and working, she also needs you contributing more than just financially, her days may be harder than yours if you think about it, she needs wine too. Work less, refi to 30, and do more dad stuff. This will also give you the physical ability and the time for a little lovin with the wifey, another stress reliever and a vital component to a happy marriage, always keep the home fire stoked.
The cigar comment isn’t a flippant hedonistic remark that I am known to make, it is serious. The negative health effects of a cigar a few times a week are outweighed by the benefits. Cigars are not like cigarettes, you can’t have them while doing something else. After dropping ten bucks on a good stick, you are forced to spend thirty minutes outside just sitting, thinking and relaxing. It is one of the great unknown health secrets because it forces you to push the “reset” button on life. George Burns, Sinatra, Milton Berle, Castro, all iconic cigar men and all lived past 80 despite lifestyles that most would consider hazardous to one’s health. If you see someone and they always seem to have a cigar in hand, expect to keep seeing them.
Thanks xbox and carlsbad on the props, I was on my third glass of wine when I wrote it. I took your advice and reread it myself, It kinda scares me that I make more sense when I’m drinking.
sdr, the cookie joke was something I saw on a t-shirt, it seemed fitting
