[quote=CA renter][quote=SK in CV][quote=6packscaredy]
Because it’s better for kids to have parents who are happy together. And all people are somewhat unreasonable.
It seems like less of a sacrifice to try to be happy with a crazy spouse than to be dead. So if you’re willing to die for your kids you ought to bexwillkng v to try to be happy even if diffivult[/quote]
Is it better for kids to have parents that are miserable together or happy apart? What if kids are all growed up? (Full disclosure: I stayed married until the kids were grown, and I don’t regret it, but I’m not sure that was the right decision.)[/quote]
There is a lot of research regarding this, too. Like it or not, most kids couldn’t care less about their parents’ “happiness.” The only exception is when there is major abuse in the home (which isn’t just about a parents’ happiness). The kids care most about their own stability and lifestyle. In the vast majority of cases, children of divorce suffer a dramatic decline in lifestyle, financial status and security, and they have less interested and involved parents because the parents are grieving too much, working longer hours, and/or because they devote themselves to new romantic relationships. Top all of that with the tendency to force children to become permanent transients, constantly moving between “mom’s house” and “dad’s house,” and never having a place to refer to as “home” and it’s easy to see why children of divorce don’t do as well as their peers from intact families. Why in the world would anyone think that a parent’s “happiness” would concern children more than these things?
And, all too often, the “happiness” of one parent is completely offset by the depression and sadness of the other, if not more so. Not exactly something a kid would desire.
Study after study shows that divorce is bad for children, even adult children.[/quote]
in my own personal, admittedly very limited experience,; kids really like to see their parents happy with each other. Not that that’s the only factor obviously. But they enjoy that a lot.so why be miserable. I think there’s always a way to get back to happiness if things don’t get too far off track. Moods change. Accept and tolerate.
