[quote=briansd1]Does happiness have anything to do with sexual attraction? What if you are really attracted to a certain type person, but you can’t find one who will like you back.
Can you compromise and still be happy with “the big stuff – money, kids, commitment.”
In talking to my friends, I find that some people care about the sexual partner more than others. Some people are very happy to have someone cook for them, or somebody around to lessen the loneliness.[/quote]
No offense, brian (and I’m sure you won’t be offended by this), but you’re talking like a serial dater — which you are.
Marriage is much deeper than that. The initial sexual attraction gives way to reality over the first months or years, and the more “mature” stuff — character, integrity, work habits, etc. — become far, far, far more important as time goes on. Once you have kids, you will either endear yourself to your partner or make them resent you. It’s a game-changer. When you have an awesome partner who works with you in all things, who is always there through thick and thin, and who shares many of the same values, etc., they become the most beautiful and magnificent person in the world — even if they look like John Goodman or Rosanne Barr.
