[quote=briansd1]Bearishgurl, are you saying it’s deceptive advertising on the part the imports?[/quote]
Brian, it’s only deceptive in their OWN country, where they had a “captive” American audience in the form of lonely and estranged American military members and their counterpart civilians. That’s where the “demure” and “subservient” act comes into to play. Once they are in the U.S. and legally “married,” all bets are off. And I’m not just speaking of “Asian” women. I’m speaking of women from MANY countries, including Russia.
I actually have two relatives who “ordered” Russian brides. Once Rel #1 (State of CO) used his “sponsorship” to bring his new “fiance” back to the US, she “defected” on him after one day in the country and quickly found another man 70 miles away to move in with. Rel #2 (State of TX) put his new “bride” through nursing school (LVN). She began nursing classes at her own insistence seven weeks after marrying him. After she finished, she quickly got work. Within one year of working, she insisted on qualifying for her own loan and buying her own home. This relative has since “retired” without her in another state but is still “married.”
Both of these relatives are very nice looking, had good jobs and were homeowners. Rel #2 had a “great” job.
I have NO IDEA why each of them decided to visit Russia and “pay” for an import. Someday I will ask them.
[quote=briansd1]If that were the case, what is stopping the American born from behaving the same way to enjoy clothing, jewelry, weekly services, vehicles, houses, etc…?
There must be something special with the imports, otherwise, all else being equal, I don’t see why the imports would have any advantage.
Like I said before, design (beauty and a fresh look) and marketing are part of the quality. ;)[/quote]
Brian, many of the Filipino immigrant wives I am acquainted with are “baby-boomers,” like myself. Some are “career women” and some are not. ALL OF THEM have expensive jewelry, bags, shoes, clothing, cars, manicures, etc., which they use and show off daily.
There is a common thread among them. Due to their upbringing and religious views, no matter how bad their marriage becomes, they will complain about it but stay. Typically, they outlive their husbands. I have personally seen these women stay in situations I wouldn’t put up with for one second. Many of them were my co-workers.
This is not “bad” in and of itself. Different strokes for different folks. But, this is the difference, Brian. I take Pilates and yoga a few nights a week at a gym, but that is my only indulgence. I don’t have any of those things mentioned above because I chose NOT to stay in a relationship I could no longer tolerate, even though my life was much more financially secure. While I was in that relationship, I STILL did not indulge in those things because we were always trying to qualify for another property (to fix up to rent or flip).
I also do all my own household maintenance and improvements and only hire out sporadically what I don’t know how to do. As you know, this work can be hard on the hands, arms, feet, and nails. As a single homeowner, I simply don’t have the time or money to indulge in all those personal goods and services.
I don’t know if its because I’m “American-born” or not why I value real estate over other material goods but I CAN say that among the women I know, maybe one or two has owned RE by themselves in the past. Typically, any RE they own is shared ownership with a spouse or other family member, so they have more $$ available, perhaps, to partake of retail goods and services.
Over seven years ago, I put up an “online dating profile,” which I took down after two weeks.
I had a FIVE-MILE RADIUS I would accept “hits” from due to my busy life but I got A LOT of attn from “married” men, much younger men and men from other states, plus one man orig. from the United Kingdom who was a newspaper reporter. He would have been a great match for me in a lot of ways except he was 50 at the time and looking to have kids IMMEDIATELY (didn’t initially state this) and of course, I was done with that. I TOLD him to go find someone 35.
Brian, when I sent a “Hi” msg to American men of my choice in my area, I got these replies EVERY TIME:
“You’re not what I’m looking for. I want an `exotic look.'”
“I prefer Asian.”
“I like really smooth hair.”
“I like to spend my weekends in MX, and want someone to help me navigate the language.”
ETC. . . NONE of these men wrote these preferences in their profiles.
FWIW, I’m 5’6″ and 129 lbs. Belonged to Balboa Park Running Club for ten years (until my knees gave out – LOL). Have been active in many sports all my life. But I don’t seem to have “the look.” Go figure . . . LOL :=]
This was an interesting and enlightening “experiment.”
