[quote=Blogstar]Ex-girlfriend? I guess that makes the real question; How much baggage does Kev have to work through before he can be in a healthy relationship, and especially not attract and spend several years with women who are beneath him?[/quote]
well, things have always been great between us. We had great chemistry right from the start, a lot of common interests..we never ran out of things to do together. The reason for our breakup was purely the fact that I did not want the take on the baggage and her opinion was that if I truly loved her the baggage is part of her and I would have to accept it that way.
Countering to that I felt that if SHE truly loved me she would see that it is unfair to put a liability that is not mine potentially on my shoulders. What I expected was for her to say that she would hold on getting married until she sorts things out which I would’ve agreed to. But she wanted kids etc.
Isn’t this pretty common? 50% of marriages end in divorce, surely most of these marriages started out with both believing the other was their soulmate and that things were perfect between them…but what happened? How could things go from perfect to disaster?
And statistically upto 70% of 2nd marriages end in divorce yet I know a huge number of people who have divorced and rushed into 2nd marriages – because I guess the pain of being alone is too much?
There is the camp that believes that people who end up divorced were blinded by love and ignored red flags in the pre-marital relationship, then there are others that say that it is a gamble and hard to tell where the marriage will wind up…just a chance you have to take.
