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Brian, it’s only deceptive in their OWN country, where they had a “captive” American audience in the form of lonely and estranged American military members and their counterpart civilians. That’s where the “demure” and “subservient” act comes into to play. Once they are in the U.S. and legally “married,” all bets are off. And I’m not just speaking of “Asian” women. I’m speaking of women from MANY countries, including Russia.
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First comment… Perhaps you’re limiting yourself too much. Afterall, you do seem like you are steadfast in finding someone domestic.
Second comment…I think your expectations are way too high in finding someone nearby AND nicely fits into your busy schedule without making any changes etc…..starting with your 5 MILE RADIUS comment. Come on, it’s not realistic imho….First off, you’re probably looking for someone somewhat responsible, which sorry to say, you’re already going to find a tough time in general (not many people are that responsible :)).
Next, if there is someone who is remotely responsible with a career or something, clearly you aren’t just expecting him to nicely fit in your schedule, are you? It just doesn’t work that way. He’s probably looking for the complete opposite, which is he’s looking for Mrs. that nicely fits into his schedule. Hopefully, there’s enough tolerances among both sides to reach some sort of compromise, otherwise that relationship would be most likely DOA. There was a period I was commuting 3 hours 1 way EVERYDAY for close to 1 year between San Diego and L.A….Which was a royal, pain in the xxx that didn’t nicely fit into either schedules.
Third, I think frankly, it appears your priorities right now are still focused on mainly on yourself and/or your career, meaning that it appears you have the “it’s my way/schedule, or the highway” viewpoint. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, nor is it a suggestion for you to compromise and throw out everything that matters to you….But …obviously every self-imposed condition you throw onto a relationship makes it that much more difficult.
I think that’s why men who just want have a pretty chick to bang have the easiest time in life…Because in that case, the decision making progress is very simple: is she hot or not. If yes, do whatever it takes get her in bed…It’s simple, straightforward, and uncomplicated plan of executing (and probably an envious position to be in, since it’s such much more simple model to execute on)….
Likewise could be said for a chick that only cares about money…Because at that point, the criteria is pretty simple. Do whatever it takes to find a rich boyfriend/spouse/etc.
Regarding those dating sites. Come on everyone, lies…It’s “everyone on their best behavior”…Everyone’s posting their best pictures/profiles, when in reality folks should really be posting their driver’s license/mugshots so that others can see what they are REALLY like.
You can thank Marketing 101 for that one, because we (as a society) value appearances much more than reality, especially in America. And everyone is guilty of that. For example, I’m sure some folks conveniently skip over all profiles that have something like “Divorced dad with kid(s)” and wouldn’t give someone in that category the time or day….So I’m sure you have a bunch of divorced dads with or without kids conveniently leaving out that detail, or worse, over emphasizing everything else….Hey, that’s what happens when we care about appearances first….
Personally, I prefer the in your face/blunt personalities, because you know up front what your dealing with and what you can/can’t tolerate up front. The quiet, passive/aggressive (but usually neurotic/psycho) types are scary ones to avoid/run away from. Or someone that puts on way too much makeup or way too much perfume, makes me wonder what happens when it rains, or if she took a bath the other day. Dropping in unexpectedly in a car/home is great way to figure out if the person is really a slob and just pretending to be clean.
Anyway, go watch “How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days” if you haven’t already…Perhaps an exageration, but then again, not really….(It was on a coach flight…I didn’t pay to go see it…Really…)
hopefully, someone posts about boycotting products in China again..
