let’s say you’re in an argument with your spouse. You react in a way that you realize may have been similar to the way your dad reacted in arguments with your mom, or perhaps in your wife’s voice you see a direct repetition of things her mom said in the way she phrases her complaint.
this insight, which can hit with an almost blinding force at times, isn’t “blaming” the dad or saying it’s the mom’s “fault” that the argument is progressing the way it is.
Just a probable necessary step in understanding and perhaps changing why and how one reacts. And perhaps in some cases, a sanity or marriage saving inquiry.
thinking hard about why and what you’re feeling and how you are reacting might be seen as a pointless exercise for some (just suck it up and try harder, stop thinking too much or too deep, just do it, etc.), but some find it useful for getting along better with others in the world.
It feels like udner this type of thought process, no criticism is possible.
if i were to say capitalism is a brutal unsustainable system that makes life miserable for huge chunks of american society in an unjust society that eventually will consume all of the earth’s resources and kill us all, i would perhaps be simply blaming the system for the failure of soem people to be winners.
or maybe making a valid point about capitalism.
Sure I can and will necesarily still be responsible for my own financial affairs in our unjust capitalist society, and im still accountable, while also realizing I didn’t create the system , the incentives, and to some degree, my success within the system is not all mine, since it is in part genetic, part where and how I was raised, and which opportunities crossed my path.
