On the contrary, it is entirely your responsibility to better and understand yourself.

But how did I get here.

To understand all is to forgive all .

The past is alive.

Ghosts are real.

For instance, all of my anxiety and fear about money? That came from 1966 to 1979 in home training. It’s not blame. Its reality.

Yes, I could change, I try to become conscious, I try to work on it.

But some rooting runs deep.

Saw a haunting documentary last night. OF FATHERS AND SONS. A Syrian filmmaker went back home to live and film a jihadist dad and his 8 kids.

It’s pretty clear what blank canvases these children are, and how the world forms us.

And change is possible, but not entirely in our hands.

Except perhaps for the chosen few. perhaps lame is the right word, for the crippling effect the past may have on you. or the salutary effect.

who among us has not said, “I shall do things better than my parents did”?

“In retrospect, this obsessive desire to understand and know what had happened to her makes me think of what Jung said: “The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents.” The word “burden” sounds so negative, but if I think about the calculated systemic oppression against women, the erasure and subjugation of women in my community, what the women have had to sacrifice to stay alive, I wonder if sometimes a parent’s unlived life could also be part of our responsibility. The trade of one generation’s sacrifice to another.”