[quote=njtosd][quote=Panderso]Really? My understanding was that daycare/preschool is $10k to $15k a year, is that about right? I’m early on in the research process.[/quote]

That seems about right – for one child. If you have two – there’s no bulk discount. It’s like paying college tuition. FWIW – I have known many women (MDs, lawyers, etc.) who were sure they’d be ok with leaving their child at daycare or with a nanny, only to find that it was a completely different decision once the child(ren) came along. Some were OK, but some weren’t (in a big way). It’s a deep dark secret, especially among those who put a lot of time and $ into preparing for their careers. Babies mess with your brain – even if you’re sure they won’t.

When buying a house, if you and your husband can leave yourselves some room to work that issue out (i.e. have a budget that leaves the possibility for one of you take some time off) you will avoid the feeling of having your back against the wall and you will both be happier. If, when the time comes, you find that you have a child care solution that works well for you, you’ll be able to put some extra cash away for college – which comes at you much faster than you will ever imagine.

Best wishes.[/quote]

yep. dont count on working with the baby. technically, women can go clinically insane after a baby arrives. men on the other hand are excellent at day care drop offs. i used to drop off a 2 mo. old 1st kid and felt nothing but, see ya later, buddy, almost proud that he was up for a day at day care, selfsoothing, sort of. while my wife would weep big salty tears. she could not self soothe as well.

later she had to stay home. couldnt “miss out” …of course, staying home also drove her nuts.

its really too expensive to have a bunch of kids. you figure itll work out cause others make it.

but others are nuts.

this is part of why scaredy is nervous,again.

how tiny is this tiny condo? maybe it is big enough