You’re coming off as someone who can’t truly afford CV but are trying very hard to make your wife happy and are getting pissed at how much you have to stretch to live in CV. If your wife have to work and both of your don’t have a Benz/Audi/BMW sedan as a daily driver, a Benz/Audi/BMW SUV to carry stuff and a Porsche for the weekend fun, you can’t truly afford CV. Get used to it. Sticker shock is a bitch when you can’t afford the stuff that you thought you’re entitled to have.
Yes, CV is not LJ. LJ, you don’t even fret about school, since you’ll be sending your kids to LJCD.