It’s true that much of who we are is baked into the cake genetically, but I still believe we all have a great deal of power to change our destinies if we choose to. We’ve known many people (male and female) who have defied the odds to excel at their chosen goals, so it can be done.
It’s great to have a discussion like this about what’s right and wrong in the world when it comes to opportunities in life (or lack thereof) especially when it comes to our kids, etc.
Attempting to alter inequalities in life is a noble pursuit, but, since life is short for all of us, imo, it might be best to also concentrate efforts on giving our kids the best tools possible (whatever that means to each person) to succeed–so they are prepared–regardless of what they face out in the world. At least, that is what we tried to do with our now grown children.