[quote=Blogstar]That’s basically the perception I work from.
I am not sure if ever in the history of humankind that “many to many” has been effective in carrying the human race forward( ultimately this topic is about reproduction and survival) . But then maybe it has been fairly common? Not in recent western civilizations, of course, but with native americans or others? Maybe further back in European history?

Cultures where only the alpha males have much access to women seem to have been/are more common. You don’t see women even dreaming of such things. yet some DO cooperate with polygamy. It doesn’t seem like that big of a stretch, really. “One ( male) with many” is more common in other primates, and throughout the animal kingdom. This is why I tend to see it as “one( male) with many”. Seems more in line with what our internal wiring would be like, at least as much as we are wired for monogamy.[/quote]What if these polygamists are bisexual? Why does it have to be one man to many women or one woman to many men?