Not sure where I wasn’t advocating for my DH…would you mind clarifying, please?

As for being fussy with finances, I mean that I like to track everything, and everything has to balance perfectly to the penny. I don’t require him to justify all of his spending, and he doesn’t do that to me, either…though we always consult with each other on larger purchases and regularly discuss the state of our finances. I run reports regularly and we review all of our income, assets, expenditures, etc. I think it’s incredibly important to do this in a marriage.

A ski trip is a larger expense, assuming you’re talking about overnight trips; and even if it’s not an overnight/longer trip, it’s still important to discuss this with one’s spouse. I think most successfully married people would agree that something like this needs to be run by the other spouse. That’s not being a wimp, it’s being a considerate and responsible spouse. No offense, Brian, but you should definitely NOT get married if you really think the way you’re writing here.