[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=zk][quote=scaredyclassic][quote=Blogstar]
Maybe there are ways that there is less imitation and no big problems moving on if we change the predispostion to negativity about anything but a nuclear monogamous household and don’t teach our kids it.
Like you said we are wired differently than we think does what we are doing really respect that or are we respecting current family dynamic religion and happier if we do because we are stupid. I know I am can’t handle anything different either but admit it could be stupidity at play too.[/quote]
wel, yeah…
but im talking more about just living in the world the way it is…not the way it could be…[/quote]
In my opinion, the crux of the problem is this: We are not wired to live in a nuclear family. We are wired to live in tribes. Tribes where the whole tribe helps watch over our kids after they reach a certain age. Today’s family arrangements (and the similar arrangements in most cultures since civilization began) are not really compatible with our wiring.
We can’t go back to living in tribes. So what do we do? I don’t think there’s a good answer. There might be a better answer. (Better than the one we have now, but still not good.) And in order to find a better answer, we’d need to first be honest with ourselves about who we are. About how humans are wired. With religion in the way, it would be pretty difficult for any such understanding to get any traction. To become widespread. Religious people only want to hear about how god made us. They don’t want to hear that we evolved in bands and tribes and therefore we’re not wired to live in their god’s preferred arrangements.
Of course, religion isn’t the only problem. I think that any large-scale, thoughtful, cooperative, realistic, non-judgmental reconsideration of the basic family unit is beyond the ability of such a combative species, with or without religion.
In the meantime, the best we can do is try to figure out how to best live in the world as it is, not the world as it should be, (as scaredy said), while being honest about our wiring (as Russ said).[/quote]
but be careful, because excessive honest regarding wiring can lead to a shortcircuit…[/quote]
It’s o.k to know as best you can his and her wiring, but tread very very lightly on the entrenched cultural paradigm of the day. For instance it seems to me that our society is designed to spread females out to the most males and to respect that. But that’s not how we are wired necessarily. I wouldn’t try to mess with it too much. Not sure if its good for genetic variation or if it waters down our species. It’s where we are at.
