But theoretically, if I paid everything for the kids and the household expenses, and the salary for the homemaker, then I would expect that she takes care of the home as an employee.
If she wants to be part of the family, she would have to pay for 1/2 the expenses out of her salary. Anything that she cannot afford, she would be excluded from.
If I buy a multi-million dollar house and she can only afford 1/3 of her $100k, then she will be confined to her employee section of the house.
We will have good accounting to show the share of contribution from each parent.
We want to be clear and neat so that there’s no misunderstanding and ruffled feelings which have no place in a employer/employee relationship.[/quote]
You have missed two important elements of the analysis (at least). Quality of egg – eggs from women that you would deem acceptable with high sat scores, no genetic issues, etc. can cost as much as $50,000 or more. Assume at least 3 months of opportunities to fertilize such a high quality source – $150,000. For men who have low sperm counts, it could take a year ….hope you have deep pockets. . (Analogy here to IVF – patients pay whether success is achieved or not; multiple tries are very expensive). Multiply that by two or three kids – you’re probably out of your price range. Ivy League sperm is $1200 by the way, but that wouldn’t matter where you “owned” the result.
Also I assume, after having listened to you, you would want above average child care – something like Maria Von Trapp , etc. – another expense. I think you probably should hope for the traditional arrangement. Or if you want to own something, buy a cat (you don’t seem like a dog person).
