[quote=CA renter]
My husband’s father is an absolute piece of dirt, but my DH won’t associate with him. IMO, that makes it okay, maybe even better than okay, because my DH recognizes bad character and chooses to disassociate with those people. [/quote]
This is the key. I was not convinced that my ex GF was not close to her mom, infact I am convinced of the opposite. Even if she showed that she was mad at her mom for entangling her in the scam she did not mention that she was going to cut off contact.
I mean, her mom made her sign some papers that faked a release of a property by a bank and that document was filed with the county). That in itself is a felony. Someone bought said property cash relying on the county records and the bank is now foreclosing as the amount owed was never paid. The buyer is now suing for fraud, damages and amount owed. Both my ex and her mom are claiming that they are now victims of a foreclosure scam. Yes, people claim they are victims when they are caught.
While I DO believe my ex did it to help her mom out I also think both knew it was something shady.
They way I look at it, when you don’t pay your bills and believe that somehow you can get rid of what you owe then you bloody well know that what you are doing is a FRAUD, no matter how you slice it.
And her mom is so sleazy that she made her own daughter sign the doc and throw her under the bus. Should someone stay in contact with such a person?
And all I told my ex is that I want to hold off on marriage and kids until this thing blows over…that is all I asked. This was unreasonable for her, she wanted me to marry and have kids regardless of the outcome of the suit and in her own words “if I have to pay this much money off then it’s a sacrifice that you will have to make to be with me”.
Of course, I chose the EXIT route. I live my life very cautiously and carefully. There is no 100% guarantee of anything but from my side I try my best to be financially cautious, save, live well below my means and not get into any issues. I am very financially stable but my condition reflects my choices in life. This also means I don’t have too much stress and I want to keep it that way.
