[quote=joec][quote=Blogstar]I agree, young people can have very nice qualities and settling down with someone won’t be easy for all the reasons you mention. Can be a wild time…or a lonely time, almost any kind of time…and not always easy to find middle ground. I am glad to be through it.
I always have trouble with that word “sacrifice” as it relates to family. I know it’s true….but it doesn’t seem like something one wants to think about….like it’s selfish to look at it that way….I sort of look at it like tradeoffs and just forget about it, but it might be better the other way….you could be proud of the sacrifices you make I guess, or something.
I could be sacrificing myself by watching a terrible movie with them right now.
Journey to Mysterious Island. I already told my wife the only thing in it for me is looking at the girl… she said it’s o.k. she doesn’t mind.,,good to mitigate the sacrifices.[/quote]
I think my wording of sacrifice is maybe not the correct term or I view it as just a word I used. Like many studies says that people with kids are not as happy as people without, but a lot of folks (me included) would probably not give up the kids to say, have a “happier” life as defined by what society or scientists call “happy”.
Maybe it’s part of the overall life experience to me and we all know kids are an insane part of life…but like the article below says, having kids has it’s own ups and downs and higher stress points with the relationship (since it’s not just you and a spouse anymore) so things get strained, not to mention time is completely shot…at least at the early 1-5/6 years till full time school.
But yeah, calling it sacrifice isn’t really the right word, even to me, but more of a life choice I guess.
Sorta funny in the article that states if parents had to choose, the wife would pick the kids over the husbands 🙂 while husbands would choose the wife.
Guess we know who dies if it’s the kids or the husband if a choice had to be made. :)[/quote]
in the event of a dicorce, earlier times, the kids wouldve selected my wife, probably instinctively knowing she would pick them to live over me.
