Man am I glad you are joking. I personally wouldn’t get hung up on what a lot of women want and do that is counter to your sensibilities. That’s like women being sure you are going to beat them one day because more men beat and kill women.

I don’t think we raise boys to be homemakers, nor should we. I think we should raise boys and girls to have a broad array of choices to go with their personalities and to be somewhat comfortable negotiating life, including how homes are made, to the best of their abilities in cooperation with others ,not as paranoid adversaries. I know there is some natural adversary stuff in the sexes but people get carried away.

I know about all of those assumptions… People make assumptions about very intelligent liberal men who make a good living, are reasonably well off , are rarely if ever in a relationship, and have dogs…
Anyway, we know people will judge…I think the ones that are most judgmental are pretty trapped somehow. Like the Mexican men that are paranoid about being mandilon while their wives dominate them. We have that too…pretty neurotic attachment to gender roles in a culture that doesn’t need it.