[quote=CA renter][quote=6packscaredy]Short term alimony not so bad. Longterm Or lifetime alimony feels like it motivates ineptitude and victimhood.

Basically when you get Married you need a real heavy duty partner.

Anything less, skip it.[/quote]

Lots of SAHPs are real heavy duty partners. They do EVERYTHING around the house, and take care of all the family members’ needs in addition to raising well-behaved, responsible, successful children. Many times, they end up taking care of the children, grandchildren, and parents/in-laws over many years.

This is in no way equivalent to “not working,” and it should never be treated or referred to as such.[/quote]

true. But there’s plenty I know where the dude comes home to fucking crazy town and the SAhm is like fuck it your shift and he’s doing child stuff and throwing dinner and laundry together and wondering what the Fucks been going on all day.

probably the SAhm is actuslky busy all day but it’s not like some tight ship in every sahp housrhold. Many suck at the job, just like regular workers suck…Low energy, inefficient etc…

plus shitloads of complaining….leading up to divorce and longterm financial payouts…