The thought of being a stay at home dad makes me feel ill.
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I would prefer to work though.

But why work 9-5 or 8-6? One couple I knew (actually my doctor back in the 80s) — wife was a pediatrician, husband was an architect by training, fixed houses, rented them, but mainly did his thing during the kids’ school hours and on weekends so he could also take care of the kids after they were done with school.