Marriage is too easy compared to divorce. The careful selection part is not encouraged.
There are vested interest in making marriage easy but divorce difficult.[/quote]
way too many women want to get married on the fast track due to their biological clock
way too many people want to jump into marriage because they don’t want to be lonely and the woman gives ultimatums of break ups if they do not marry them within their fixed time frame[/quote]
This is because that “biological clock” is a very real thing for women. With every year that passes, she is less and less likely to find a good mate and/or have biological children. This is not true for men.
And the reason women give that ultimatum is because they know full well (either consciously or subconsciously) that their most valuable assets are youth and beauty (and fertility). There is no incentive for her to be monogamous with a guy who is unwilling to commit to her after a reasonable period of time. It is to her great detriment to wait until he has determined that nothing “better” will be coming along (which is usually why the guy is unwilling to commit in the first place).
A man who expects a woman to spend her best years in a monogamous relationship with him, without any commitment on his part (marriage), is like a woman expecting a man to spend all of his current and future wealth on her without the expectation of a sexual/romantic relationship (possibly children).
Having said that, I agree that people need to do a far better job of vetting prospective mates. IMO, putting all your cards on the table and discussing expectations, beliefs, philosophies, etc. is imperative…and it should be done as early in the relationship as possible. That way, everyone’s interests are aligned, and everyone can make an informed decision about what they want to do.
