Alan, I hear you. You are “being penalized for the actions of others”, because you live in a society where many less socially responsible than you are forcing the issue? Society needs to act for the greater good. If the threat of violence is removed you don’t need to defend yourself, but if by defending yourself you form part of the chain of violence, you are stuck in a cycle. Something needs to give, and that means sacrifices, and those sacrifices sometimes need to be made by the people least likely to benefit directly. I know that all sounds very lofty, and easy to say, difficult to do, but standing from afar that’s what seems to make the most sense to me.