As native San Diegans, my wife and I chose to send our kids to La Jolla Country Day School. My brother sent his four girls to The Bishop’s School in La Jolla, and, as others here have mentioned, there are definitely other excellent options.
Another area, near Del Mar, called Carmel Valley, (zip code 92130) has excellent public schools as well as two private Catholic schools I know
of–Notre Dame Academy and Cathedral High School.
Depending on where you will be working, you might want to check out housing options by zip code in this and other areas at sdlookup.com.
With regard to particular areas of San Diego being family friendly–I would say that you should be fine in all of the areas you mentioned with regard to housing, schools, and building a wonderful life for you and your family in San Diego–but I would definitely check out Carmel Valley as another very strong option.
