About what bearishgurl said, since we have two kids, Chula Vista wouldn’t be ideal due to the schools despite the no/less Mello Roos.

East county isn’t ideal for my husband’s work; he would have a commute with traffic. Ramona felt too isolated and wouldn’t be ideal for the commute either.

I will look into Poway Palisades. Thanks to all for your replies; I feared I wasn’t going to get any and am glad to get these suggestions.