I don’t know. I’m persuaded by tg’s experiential argument as I read it but, the numbers… Also, I guess the truth is I particularly like having the oldest one around. Perhaps the second and third will be obnoxious and repugnant in nature and it will be worth anything to get them out, but the oldest one makes life better. I guess it’s not about me. Or is it?

Also I’m not saying he has to get on a treadmill right away. My experience involves floating around for 7 long years before going to law school doing llot of varied things before “stabilizing” onto law school. I’d expect the same from him. Takes the pressure off having a good time now. Also he’s not a frat type. He’s more of the scary smart rock climbing dude who camps out at Joshua tree with other weird muscular dudes and climbs rocks all winter. The little boy who was doing complicated origami late into the night. Confident but aloof. The other issue is he thinks I’m hilarious but if he leaves there is a risk that no one else in the house will think I’m amusing. He’s the best 16 year old currently in existence in ca. Or at least custom made to thinknim funny. Why can’t I just keep him around for another 3-4 years?