I am not able to edit my posts for some reason,so a new one for JG:
Thanks for sharing your story as well. I know it takes courage. You certainly could have had better “nurture” yourself. Divorice is tragic,sometimes,my parents divoriced 3 years before my mom died.They were so crazy I think it was a relief to some of us.Having the sibling unit split was a disaster for me. I hope you can see that the system of beliefs that you maintain and the developement of the people involved has tremendous capacity to attenuate or exacerbate the deleterious effects of divorice. Are you glad that the Catholic church punished your parents for divoricing? It seems very cruel, dark and primative to have such policies .
I think, if my wife and I were ever to split we would still do a great job raising our kids.We would repair the wounds to the greatest degree possible. We would go on loving each other and being decent to one another.We would be free from having the curse of a requirement to label one another “sinner” or having a community we belonged to do so. That said I am old school and would also believe in staying together for the kids sake. We would simply agree not to make each other miserable and facilitate a reasonably tender,mutually supportive collegial relationship.