Why do people that make the median income think they have some divine right to buy a nice home, is that written in stone somewhere? Let’s face it, if that is all the money someone can make, than you cannot expect to live in the more expensive areas. Southern California is an expensive area, and it will still be after the drop, however big it is.
People pursue different careers for different reasons, but if the one you choose only allows the median income, you are going to have to accept what that will bring you in terms of a home.