it is true that guys seem to land back in the same sort of crap they try to escape. that’s why I believe it is better to stay and work with what you have. i don’t think it’s a binary thing, unhappy relationship out, happy relationship in”. i think it’s all going to be some shifting balance of the two, misery and happiness combined. we were born to suffer and die, so resistance is futile. you’re already where you were meant to be. barring enlightenment, things aren’t really going to be materially better, so just deal and try to improve.