i was just thinking out loud. I don’t actually believe that’s true, possible, or even suggested by tohers comments. But, i like the idea of a shifting ratio of misery to contentment. When the ratio gets toxic, you can hang on, but only for so ong. as long as the ratio is acceptable, not even all that great, you’ll probably hang in there. i think even a 50-50 ratio is not bad, i’d say when it’s greater than 75%, it starts to get troublesome for most guys. i think women have much mroe ability to adjust the level than guys do. i think there may be some biologcal basis for that. i do not at all believe that “if only men would wake up and do/say/be X, then she wouldn’t be miserable.” I believed that at one time, but I will never be so persuaded again.

in general, i think ther eis something intrinsic with our culture where women feel almost required to screw w/ guys minds. it’s visible at an early age.