[quote=temeculaguy][quote=fredo4]
So why would a typical guy like me ever remarry? If a woman was in a similar situation why would she? I have no big regrets about donating my last house because that was aquired in a team effort, we both had nothing when we started, I’m good with that. But the little empire I’ve built since then, I did it alone, it will not be risked. I didn’t like the Brady Bunch on T.V., I’m sure as hell not going to live it in real life.[/quote]

TG- You’ve done it all the right way IMO. Obviously, it’s better not to get divorced in the first place, but if you have no other alternative, the way you’ve done it is ideal. Putting your kids first, not even introducing them to the women you date, etc. However, when your kids are all on their own you are going to run into some problems when THEY have kids if you and the new girlfriend are shacking up. They may see you as a bad influence.

My dad lives with his girlfriend and I don’t let my 12-yr-old daughter go over there because of it. I have nothing against his arrangement personally (My husband and I lived together before our marriage) I just don’t want my daughter to get the idea that this is what everyone does. It’s hard enough to keep your teenage daughters from getting pregnant without grampa teaching them how to do it.
I think that a prenup is definately the way to go with a second marriage. It may be a hard sell to the second wife (not because she’s a gold digger but because of the implication that you don’t trust her), but if you present it in a delicate way, explaining all of your concerns, I don’t think it should be a problem getting her to go along with the idea. Maybe even put in a clause that if you cheat on her, the prenup is null and void. Plus, you want to have a wife to grow old with, don’t you? Who else is going to give you sponge baths?