[quote=zzz]May I ask about your dynamics? Are you both communicators? Are you both fairly easy going and agreeable? Is one of you more of the leader and the other a follower and happy with it? Are you both Type A? Just trying to get some insight.[/quote]

I would attribute it to two factors. We were older when we met/married. We both had owned our own homes for years – so we were both used to cooking/cleaning/yardwork/fixing stuff. Probably because of that we both have an attitude of looking around to see what needs doing – and doing it.

Because we were older (I was in my late 30’s he was in his late 40’s), neither of us had expectations of “changing” or “fixing” the other one… since we were both fairly set in our ways. WYSIWYG. That makes a huge difference in how we communicate – we knew the partner we were getting when we got married.

I wouldn’t say were big time communicators. But we are on the same page. Neither of us is big on the need to talk about problems. The “honey, we need to talk….” thing doesn’t happen a lot in our house.

I wouldn’t say either of us are type A, either. We are solid/stable/worker-bee types. Pretty boring.

And I wouldn’t say either of us is the leader. We just agree on all of the big stuff, and compromise on the little stuff. If one person feels stronger about something, the other usually gives in.

We both work in professional jobs (engineer and architect). We both tend to be problem solvers. So far, we haven’t had the career struggle since we’ve both taken the career/income hits when we chose to have kids.

I guess this is all fancy talk for saying I found a compatable person… I got lucky.