not sure exactly what i mean; i see that she’s in over her head, but somehow im not pissed at her. it’s like a death or something. she never pictured herself getting divorced because of her parents. rationality doesn’t enter into it. she’s not really living extravagantly other than the house part. and the house part is highly psychological, in terms of her kids, etc. yeah she shouldve been 100% cold and calculating on divorce, but she wasn’t and somehow, in this case, im not offended by her mindset. i’d be concerned for her financially, but , not , like angry. might be irraitonal on my part too