[quote=CBad]Thanks flu. My husband and kids will always come first, always. I would never do something like this without 100% agreement from my husband. We have discussed this in depth and reached this compromise. I think paying a minor bill might be a good idea too. I was just thinking to have him save every penny to get him on his feet ASAP.

Thanks surferdp. It will be tough for me to stick to my rules I’ll admit that right now. But I will do it and luckily I KNOW my husband will do it if I waffled even slightly![/quote]

Regardless of how much he wants to be financially prudent(which may be another issue), if this person is emotionally distraught right now, the last thing he will be thinking about is money and managing it well. In fact, normal people would spend money out of a depression on booze, movies, flings, you name it.

People tend not to penny pinch at
1) Weddings
2) Babies
3) Divorces
4) Funerals

because these are typically emotional events.

That said, if you really want to help him/her financially, charge him as much as you can, and tuck it away for him until he’s out of his emotional state. He’ll thank you for it and if he doesn’t, it’s the last time you deal with him.

Let your husband play “bad guy” figuratively. If you get into a spot, just say “because you’re all a guest of hubby, so you better follow the rules”