I think this comment could only come from someone who has never been in an Ivy League school, or any top-notch private college.
You have pointed out the worst of such institutions, which is likely inspired by movies such as “Risky Business” and “Legally Blonde.” Such evil competitiveness exists, but it is not as prominent as Hollywood likes to show.
I’m not Ivy League, but the institution I attended is considered on par with such. I agree with your position on not driving children to be overly competitive, but since you don’t even know what “all that Ivy League stuff” is, I suggest you not belittle it.
There are so many positives in that environment, I can’t begin to explain. For example, I learned how to properly analyze markets.
