I’d highly recommend going to a trust workshop so you can both learn about how to do this properly. It opens your eyes to inheiritance law and you will surely think differently about these things after you go. If you are even considering community property, then I’m sure you will be shocked at what you learn in such a workshop. They are usually free.

I’m sure there are many good workshops in town. I used Walters and Ward in Rancho Bernardo and the workshop was superb.