Well written, Bugs. You reap what you sow, or as I prefer to think of it, you invent the future that you want to face.

My own divorce was amicable because we (ex & I) kept our issues private and worked towards the common good of our daughter. The reward is a peaceful relationship with my ex that allows my daughter to feel safe with either parent and new spouses. BTW, she is 31 now, loves her stepfather and stepmother, and knows she can talk about either parent in front of the other and that both sets of parents can be in the other’s homes for a drink!