I know most of you all will throw arrows at me for this, but I cannot imagine why a man would marry a woman who didn’t want to work outside the home. That was a must-have on my list.
I see so many problems in relationships with stay-at-home moms. I can tell you by the # of times the phone rings on an employee’s desk (with a call from wifey) whether or not his wife works. If she doesn’t work, she’s bored and hits that phone for every little thing. Besides solving boredom, a working wife provides many other bennies: less time to spend dough, she’s tired in the eve too so less “let’s go out!” on weeknights, doubles the household income & retirement bennies, and maybe the most important: she stays mentally stimulated and engaged with the world.
Luckily I found a gorgeous woman early on who was brilliant and driven, so the decision to marry was so easy that it made me second guess myself. But it’s turned out beautifully.
This has been a long-winded way of saying: alimony is not an issue if your wife makes as much (or more!) than you do. While this was not my intent in my wifey-must-work mentality, it would have been a very welcome plus if things had not worked out.
(child support is a whole nuther issue. I cannot for the life of me imagine why someone would NOT want to have their offspring live with adequate $$ – paying child support is a no brainer. My respect for those who refuse to pay it – or complain about it – is nil. You got your rocks off dude. Pay up.)