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[quote=ucodegen]
Libel only applies if it is not true. Also, opinions on blogs are generally protected under first amendment. Exceptions are if the poster of the information is presenting themselves as an expert. (there are a few other items that would be exceptions, but they don’t apply here)[/quote]

ucodegen, i’m familiar with what libel is, but people do and can sue you regardless if their claim has any legs to stand on, and people have sued over “opinions” on review sites, blogs, etc. the point is, he should consult an attorney since he’s in complicated predicament, so why air these personal matters online on any off chance they could come back to haunt?

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[quote=wanttobuy]well, I am frustrated with SD housing.

Maybe not in SD, but I am sure there is somewhere that one can afford to have all. SD is our first stop in U.S.. What about other States? Anywhere has a good education system (not have to worry about budget cut year after year), decent job opportunity for engineers, nice weather (maybe not as good as SD, but I don’t mind colder weather with more lush green). Most importantly, affordable housing.

Of course, no wild fire, earthquake and tornado, hurricane stuff like that. Anywhere?[/quote]

i’m sorry to break you out of your nirvana bubble, but no place exists without downside and negatives, or possible disasters. Mother Nature is EVERYWHERE!

there are a LOT of places that you can afford to buy a huge house on a lot of land with a good neighborhood and good schools for under 1M. there is only one SD, so you need to decide – do you like SD and the weather and the lifestyle and all that it has to offer ( beaches, mountains, desert). IF SD isn’t for you, yes well move somewhere cheaper. but i suspect you’ll find negatives with those places too.

i’m going to revert back to my earlier post, which is you need to define what you want in order of importance and prioritize, then maybe people can make some better suggestions.

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[quote=wanttobuy]well, I am frustrated with SD housing.

Maybe not in SD, but I am sure there is somewhere that one can afford to have all. SD is our first stop in U.S.. What about other States? Anywhere has a good education system (not have to worry about budget cut year after year), decent job opportunity for engineers, nice weather (maybe not as good as SD, but I don’t mind colder weather with more lush green). Most importantly, affordable housing.

Of course, no wild fire, earthquake and tornado, hurricane stuff like that. Anywhere?[/quote]

i’m sorry to break you out of your nirvana bubble, but no place exists without downside and negatives, or possible disasters. Mother Nature is EVERYWHERE!

there are a LOT of places that you can afford to buy a huge house on a lot of land with a good neighborhood and good schools for under 1M. there is only one SD, so you need to decide – do you like SD and the weather and the lifestyle and all that it has to offer ( beaches, mountains, desert). IF SD isn’t for you, yes well move somewhere cheaper. but i suspect you’ll find negatives with those places too.

i’m going to revert back to my earlier post, which is you need to define what you want in order of importance and prioritize, then maybe people can make some better suggestions.

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[quote=wanttobuy]well, I am frustrated with SD housing.

Maybe not in SD, but I am sure there is somewhere that one can afford to have all. SD is our first stop in U.S.. What about other States? Anywhere has a good education system (not have to worry about budget cut year after year), decent job opportunity for engineers, nice weather (maybe not as good as SD, but I don’t mind colder weather with more lush green). Most importantly, affordable housing.

Of course, no wild fire, earthquake and tornado, hurricane stuff like that. Anywhere?[/quote]

i’m sorry to break you out of your nirvana bubble, but no place exists without downside and negatives, or possible disasters. Mother Nature is EVERYWHERE!

there are a LOT of places that you can afford to buy a huge house on a lot of land with a good neighborhood and good schools for under 1M. there is only one SD, so you need to decide – do you like SD and the weather and the lifestyle and all that it has to offer ( beaches, mountains, desert). IF SD isn’t for you, yes well move somewhere cheaper. but i suspect you’ll find negatives with those places too.

i’m going to revert back to my earlier post, which is you need to define what you want in order of importance and prioritize, then maybe people can make some better suggestions.

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[quote=wanttobuy]well, I am frustrated with SD housing.

Maybe not in SD, but I am sure there is somewhere that one can afford to have all. SD is our first stop in U.S.. What about other States? Anywhere has a good education system (not have to worry about budget cut year after year), decent job opportunity for engineers, nice weather (maybe not as good as SD, but I don’t mind colder weather with more lush green). Most importantly, affordable housing.

Of course, no wild fire, earthquake and tornado, hurricane stuff like that. Anywhere?[/quote]

i’m sorry to break you out of your nirvana bubble, but no place exists without downside and negatives, or possible disasters. Mother Nature is EVERYWHERE!

there are a LOT of places that you can afford to buy a huge house on a lot of land with a good neighborhood and good schools for under 1M. there is only one SD, so you need to decide – do you like SD and the weather and the lifestyle and all that it has to offer ( beaches, mountains, desert). IF SD isn’t for you, yes well move somewhere cheaper. but i suspect you’ll find negatives with those places too.

i’m going to revert back to my earlier post, which is you need to define what you want in order of importance and prioritize, then maybe people can make some better suggestions.

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[quote=wanttobuy]well, I am frustrated with SD housing.

Maybe not in SD, but I am sure there is somewhere that one can afford to have all. SD is our first stop in U.S.. What about other States? Anywhere has a good education system (not have to worry about budget cut year after year), decent job opportunity for engineers, nice weather (maybe not as good as SD, but I don’t mind colder weather with more lush green). Most importantly, affordable housing.

Of course, no wild fire, earthquake and tornado, hurricane stuff like that. Anywhere?[/quote]

i’m sorry to break you out of your nirvana bubble, but no place exists without downside and negatives, or possible disasters. Mother Nature is EVERYWHERE!

there are a LOT of places that you can afford to buy a huge house on a lot of land with a good neighborhood and good schools for under 1M. there is only one SD, so you need to decide – do you like SD and the weather and the lifestyle and all that it has to offer ( beaches, mountains, desert). IF SD isn’t for you, yes well move somewhere cheaper. but i suspect you’ll find negatives with those places too.

i’m going to revert back to my earlier post, which is you need to define what you want in order of importance and prioritize, then maybe people can make some better suggestions.

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[quote=wanttobuy]Thanks, SK in CV. So you now moved to CV? Some says Inland is 10-15 degree hotter/colder. Any comments? What about price range? Any difference among these communities? Any info. will be appreciated. Or is there an agent familiar with the area to recommend? Thanks.[/quote]

I know the area a bit, having lived not too far from Poway at one point, but still cycle/hike near there. Its fairly isolated from just about anything but Walmart/Costco, etc. There’s no mall, no nightlife, not many good restaurants, and you’re a good 35 minutes from the coast. The people I know who live there do so because 1. they couldn’t afford to be closer to the coast 2. they wanted to live without the congestion..some parts feel like you’re in the country 3. they wanted a good school district

Basically, you have to drive to get anywhere if you live in Poway.

And yes, it can get very hot during the summers. You will need to run the air in your house as you are too far to get the coastal breezes. The tradeoff is you get more land. The wildfire risk is ever present.

It comes down to what you want in characteristics in a neighborhood.

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[quote=wanttobuy]Thanks, SK in CV. So you now moved to CV? Some says Inland is 10-15 degree hotter/colder. Any comments? What about price range? Any difference among these communities? Any info. will be appreciated. Or is there an agent familiar with the area to recommend? Thanks.[/quote]

I know the area a bit, having lived not too far from Poway at one point, but still cycle/hike near there. Its fairly isolated from just about anything but Walmart/Costco, etc. There’s no mall, no nightlife, not many good restaurants, and you’re a good 35 minutes from the coast. The people I know who live there do so because 1. they couldn’t afford to be closer to the coast 2. they wanted to live without the congestion..some parts feel like you’re in the country 3. they wanted a good school district

Basically, you have to drive to get anywhere if you live in Poway.

And yes, it can get very hot during the summers. You will need to run the air in your house as you are too far to get the coastal breezes. The tradeoff is you get more land. The wildfire risk is ever present.

It comes down to what you want in characteristics in a neighborhood.

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[quote=wanttobuy]Thanks, SK in CV. So you now moved to CV? Some says Inland is 10-15 degree hotter/colder. Any comments? What about price range? Any difference among these communities? Any info. will be appreciated. Or is there an agent familiar with the area to recommend? Thanks.[/quote]

I know the area a bit, having lived not too far from Poway at one point, but still cycle/hike near there. Its fairly isolated from just about anything but Walmart/Costco, etc. There’s no mall, no nightlife, not many good restaurants, and you’re a good 35 minutes from the coast. The people I know who live there do so because 1. they couldn’t afford to be closer to the coast 2. they wanted to live without the congestion..some parts feel like you’re in the country 3. they wanted a good school district

Basically, you have to drive to get anywhere if you live in Poway.

And yes, it can get very hot during the summers. You will need to run the air in your house as you are too far to get the coastal breezes. The tradeoff is you get more land. The wildfire risk is ever present.

It comes down to what you want in characteristics in a neighborhood.

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[quote=wanttobuy]Thanks, SK in CV. So you now moved to CV? Some says Inland is 10-15 degree hotter/colder. Any comments? What about price range? Any difference among these communities? Any info. will be appreciated. Or is there an agent familiar with the area to recommend? Thanks.[/quote]

I know the area a bit, having lived not too far from Poway at one point, but still cycle/hike near there. Its fairly isolated from just about anything but Walmart/Costco, etc. There’s no mall, no nightlife, not many good restaurants, and you’re a good 35 minutes from the coast. The people I know who live there do so because 1. they couldn’t afford to be closer to the coast 2. they wanted to live without the congestion..some parts feel like you’re in the country 3. they wanted a good school district

Basically, you have to drive to get anywhere if you live in Poway.

And yes, it can get very hot during the summers. You will need to run the air in your house as you are too far to get the coastal breezes. The tradeoff is you get more land. The wildfire risk is ever present.

It comes down to what you want in characteristics in a neighborhood.

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[quote=wanttobuy]Thanks, SK in CV. So you now moved to CV? Some says Inland is 10-15 degree hotter/colder. Any comments? What about price range? Any difference among these communities? Any info. will be appreciated. Or is there an agent familiar with the area to recommend? Thanks.[/quote]

I know the area a bit, having lived not too far from Poway at one point, but still cycle/hike near there. Its fairly isolated from just about anything but Walmart/Costco, etc. There’s no mall, no nightlife, not many good restaurants, and you’re a good 35 minutes from the coast. The people I know who live there do so because 1. they couldn’t afford to be closer to the coast 2. they wanted to live without the congestion..some parts feel like you’re in the country 3. they wanted a good school district

Basically, you have to drive to get anywhere if you live in Poway.

And yes, it can get very hot during the summers. You will need to run the air in your house as you are too far to get the coastal breezes. The tradeoff is you get more land. The wildfire risk is ever present.

It comes down to what you want in characteristics in a neighborhood.

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[quote=deadzone][quote=davelj][quote=walterwhite]I like cake but it’s also good to have a spare Twinkie. Why not at least try to have your cake and eat it too. You might get away with it. Nothing ventured nothing gained.[/quote]

And therein lies one big problem. Many men (and women – but I’m going to focus on men here) want to have their cake and eat it too. They enter into marriage because they want kids and the stability of a wife-partner. But they have no intention of being faithful. They view the whole arrangement as just being part of life – you have your wife and kids, and then you have your affairs on the side. A large proportion of men enter into marriage with the belief that this is just how men are supposed to lead their lives. I’m not saying it’s right – I’m just saying it’s prevalent. I have many married male friends that, if we were in a bar somewhere and they started trying to pick up a woman and I reminded them of their marriage… they would break up in laughter at the comment, assuming it was a joke.[/quote]

Clearly Dave you are not married.[/quote]

I agree with Dave. I think most people underestimate how much infidelity there actually is. I also think most people underestimate how many unfulfilled marriages there are. I used to be naive and believe most married people do not cheat, but OPPORTUNITY is the key. I’ve thankfully never been cheated on – well at least not that I know of :-), nor do I believe in it, but I’m amazed how many people do. People cheat when given the opp and believe it will not come back to them. There are a lot of people, men and women who appear conservative, happy, fulfilled, etc. You may know both people in the coupledom, but take one of them on a trip, business or boys/girls weekend, and then observe. I have seen cheating happen far too often over the years.

I have asked some of these people why the cheat. They tell me they love their spouse, they love their kids, but if you had to eat Italian, Mexican, Chinese, etc every night, sometimes you just want Greek food. Other people cheat because they are insecure and need more admiration, adoration, whatever strokes their ego. They want the companionship, want to come home to share a warm meal, they like the family life, but just because they already have the latest greatest HDTV, when a new one comes out, sometimes they just have to have the new one. they want that feel good high.

I also agree with Brian that there is a societal desire to see people marry/ have kids. When married people with kids observe people who have been dating for some time, or a couple who’s married but childless, they constantly ask “when are you getting married” or “when are you having kids”, or try to sell you on why both are great. First off, its no ones damn business, and what if someone cannot bear children due to health issues? Or what if one person desperately wants to get married and the other doesnt? Or what if neither believe in marriage nor kids? Either way, i find these types of incessant questions completely inappropriate. I notice people doing it professionally all the time – interoffice, networking, clients, etc. Its like asking the married people if they are really happy in marriage, how often they have sex, do they get their wife to orgasm? My old boss told me he tired of the questions of when he and his wife would have kids, so he finally started responding: “Well I’m having sex at 9 tonight with my wife, do you want to come observe or shall I just phone you after to let you know how it went?”

If you want to get married and have kids, great. If you don’t, thats great too. If you can’t, that sucks and no one needs to rub it in your face. But its not other people’s job to convince either group why its good or bad, or ask constantly about how its going.

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[quote=deadzone][quote=davelj][quote=walterwhite]I like cake but it’s also good to have a spare Twinkie. Why not at least try to have your cake and eat it too. You might get away with it. Nothing ventured nothing gained.[/quote]

And therein lies one big problem. Many men (and women – but I’m going to focus on men here) want to have their cake and eat it too. They enter into marriage because they want kids and the stability of a wife-partner. But they have no intention of being faithful. They view the whole arrangement as just being part of life – you have your wife and kids, and then you have your affairs on the side. A large proportion of men enter into marriage with the belief that this is just how men are supposed to lead their lives. I’m not saying it’s right – I’m just saying it’s prevalent. I have many married male friends that, if we were in a bar somewhere and they started trying to pick up a woman and I reminded them of their marriage… they would break up in laughter at the comment, assuming it was a joke.[/quote]

Clearly Dave you are not married.[/quote]

I agree with Dave. I think most people underestimate how much infidelity there actually is. I also think most people underestimate how many unfulfilled marriages there are. I used to be naive and believe most married people do not cheat, but OPPORTUNITY is the key. I’ve thankfully never been cheated on – well at least not that I know of :-), nor do I believe in it, but I’m amazed how many people do. People cheat when given the opp and believe it will not come back to them. There are a lot of people, men and women who appear conservative, happy, fulfilled, etc. You may know both people in the coupledom, but take one of them on a trip, business or boys/girls weekend, and then observe. I have seen cheating happen far too often over the years.

I have asked some of these people why the cheat. They tell me they love their spouse, they love their kids, but if you had to eat Italian, Mexican, Chinese, etc every night, sometimes you just want Greek food. Other people cheat because they are insecure and need more admiration, adoration, whatever strokes their ego. They want the companionship, want to come home to share a warm meal, they like the family life, but just because they already have the latest greatest HDTV, when a new one comes out, sometimes they just have to have the new one. they want that feel good high.

I also agree with Brian that there is a societal desire to see people marry/ have kids. When married people with kids observe people who have been dating for some time, or a couple who’s married but childless, they constantly ask “when are you getting married” or “when are you having kids”, or try to sell you on why both are great. First off, its no ones damn business, and what if someone cannot bear children due to health issues? Or what if one person desperately wants to get married and the other doesnt? Or what if neither believe in marriage nor kids? Either way, i find these types of incessant questions completely inappropriate. I notice people doing it professionally all the time – interoffice, networking, clients, etc. Its like asking the married people if they are really happy in marriage, how often they have sex, do they get their wife to orgasm? My old boss told me he tired of the questions of when he and his wife would have kids, so he finally started responding: “Well I’m having sex at 9 tonight with my wife, do you want to come observe or shall I just phone you after to let you know how it went?”

If you want to get married and have kids, great. If you don’t, thats great too. If you can’t, that sucks and no one needs to rub it in your face. But its not other people’s job to convince either group why its good or bad, or ask constantly about how its going.

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[quote=deadzone][quote=davelj][quote=walterwhite]I like cake but it’s also good to have a spare Twinkie. Why not at least try to have your cake and eat it too. You might get away with it. Nothing ventured nothing gained.[/quote]

And therein lies one big problem. Many men (and women – but I’m going to focus on men here) want to have their cake and eat it too. They enter into marriage because they want kids and the stability of a wife-partner. But they have no intention of being faithful. They view the whole arrangement as just being part of life – you have your wife and kids, and then you have your affairs on the side. A large proportion of men enter into marriage with the belief that this is just how men are supposed to lead their lives. I’m not saying it’s right – I’m just saying it’s prevalent. I have many married male friends that, if we were in a bar somewhere and they started trying to pick up a woman and I reminded them of their marriage… they would break up in laughter at the comment, assuming it was a joke.[/quote]

Clearly Dave you are not married.[/quote]

I agree with Dave. I think most people underestimate how much infidelity there actually is. I also think most people underestimate how many unfulfilled marriages there are. I used to be naive and believe most married people do not cheat, but OPPORTUNITY is the key. I’ve thankfully never been cheated on – well at least not that I know of :-), nor do I believe in it, but I’m amazed how many people do. People cheat when given the opp and believe it will not come back to them. There are a lot of people, men and women who appear conservative, happy, fulfilled, etc. You may know both people in the coupledom, but take one of them on a trip, business or boys/girls weekend, and then observe. I have seen cheating happen far too often over the years.

I have asked some of these people why the cheat. They tell me they love their spouse, they love their kids, but if you had to eat Italian, Mexican, Chinese, etc every night, sometimes you just want Greek food. Other people cheat because they are insecure and need more admiration, adoration, whatever strokes their ego. They want the companionship, want to come home to share a warm meal, they like the family life, but just because they already have the latest greatest HDTV, when a new one comes out, sometimes they just have to have the new one. they want that feel good high.

I also agree with Brian that there is a societal desire to see people marry/ have kids. When married people with kids observe people who have been dating for some time, or a couple who’s married but childless, they constantly ask “when are you getting married” or “when are you having kids”, or try to sell you on why both are great. First off, its no ones damn business, and what if someone cannot bear children due to health issues? Or what if one person desperately wants to get married and the other doesnt? Or what if neither believe in marriage nor kids? Either way, i find these types of incessant questions completely inappropriate. I notice people doing it professionally all the time – interoffice, networking, clients, etc. Its like asking the married people if they are really happy in marriage, how often they have sex, do they get their wife to orgasm? My old boss told me he tired of the questions of when he and his wife would have kids, so he finally started responding: “Well I’m having sex at 9 tonight with my wife, do you want to come observe or shall I just phone you after to let you know how it went?”

If you want to get married and have kids, great. If you don’t, thats great too. If you can’t, that sucks and no one needs to rub it in your face. But its not other people’s job to convince either group why its good or bad, or ask constantly about how its going.

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[quote=deadzone][quote=davelj][quote=walterwhite]I like cake but it’s also good to have a spare Twinkie. Why not at least try to have your cake and eat it too. You might get away with it. Nothing ventured nothing gained.[/quote]

And therein lies one big problem. Many men (and women – but I’m going to focus on men here) want to have their cake and eat it too. They enter into marriage because they want kids and the stability of a wife-partner. But they have no intention of being faithful. They view the whole arrangement as just being part of life – you have your wife and kids, and then you have your affairs on the side. A large proportion of men enter into marriage with the belief that this is just how men are supposed to lead their lives. I’m not saying it’s right – I’m just saying it’s prevalent. I have many married male friends that, if we were in a bar somewhere and they started trying to pick up a woman and I reminded them of their marriage… they would break up in laughter at the comment, assuming it was a joke.[/quote]

Clearly Dave you are not married.[/quote]

I agree with Dave. I think most people underestimate how much infidelity there actually is. I also think most people underestimate how many unfulfilled marriages there are. I used to be naive and believe most married people do not cheat, but OPPORTUNITY is the key. I’ve thankfully never been cheated on – well at least not that I know of :-), nor do I believe in it, but I’m amazed how many people do. People cheat when given the opp and believe it will not come back to them. There are a lot of people, men and women who appear conservative, happy, fulfilled, etc. You may know both people in the coupledom, but take one of them on a trip, business or boys/girls weekend, and then observe. I have seen cheating happen far too often over the years.

I have asked some of these people why the cheat. They tell me they love their spouse, they love their kids, but if you had to eat Italian, Mexican, Chinese, etc every night, sometimes you just want Greek food. Other people cheat because they are insecure and need more admiration, adoration, whatever strokes their ego. They want the companionship, want to come home to share a warm meal, they like the family life, but just because they already have the latest greatest HDTV, when a new one comes out, sometimes they just have to have the new one. they want that feel good high.

I also agree with Brian that there is a societal desire to see people marry/ have kids. When married people with kids observe people who have been dating for some time, or a couple who’s married but childless, they constantly ask “when are you getting married” or “when are you having kids”, or try to sell you on why both are great. First off, its no ones damn business, and what if someone cannot bear children due to health issues? Or what if one person desperately wants to get married and the other doesnt? Or what if neither believe in marriage nor kids? Either way, i find these types of incessant questions completely inappropriate. I notice people doing it professionally all the time – interoffice, networking, clients, etc. Its like asking the married people if they are really happy in marriage, how often they have sex, do they get their wife to orgasm? My old boss told me he tired of the questions of when he and his wife would have kids, so he finally started responding: “Well I’m having sex at 9 tonight with my wife, do you want to come observe or shall I just phone you after to let you know how it went?”

If you want to get married and have kids, great. If you don’t, thats great too. If you can’t, that sucks and no one needs to rub it in your face. But its not other people’s job to convince either group why its good or bad, or ask constantly about how its going.

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