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raptorduck
ParticipantSD Realtor, so I checked 13409 out on the web. What is the deal with that one? Quite a bit less than a comprable in RSF, but no interior pictures is kind of odd?
The one I was talking about earlier is 17812, where there was a previous thread on it in 2007.
raptorduck
ParticipantSD Realtor, so I checked 13409 out on the web. What is the deal with that one? Quite a bit less than a comprable in RSF, but no interior pictures is kind of odd?
The one I was talking about earlier is 17812, where there was a previous thread on it in 2007.
raptorduck
ParticipantSD Realtor, so I checked 13409 out on the web. What is the deal with that one? Quite a bit less than a comprable in RSF, but no interior pictures is kind of odd?
The one I was talking about earlier is 17812, where there was a previous thread on it in 2007.
raptorduck
ParticipantSD Realtor, so I checked 13409 out on the web. What is the deal with that one? Quite a bit less than a comprable in RSF, but no interior pictures is kind of odd?
The one I was talking about earlier is 17812, where there was a previous thread on it in 2007.
raptorduck
ParticipantIt was my wife’s idea, not mine. For me, seems way too far for my commute and likely too hot during the summer. Convenience of a location is an important thing to me. My wife is a stay at home mom, so for her it is community.
I am not so concerned with reputation and appearances. Poway looks like the kind of area I would like, except that it is farther from the coast and my job than I would like. I like RSF, not because it has a certain reputation and improves my “appearence,” but because it is exactly what I am looking for, close to work and water, large private homes on large private lots, great schools, great weather. La Jolla and Del Mar have that “cache” too, but we are not looking there, other than Del Mar east of 5 on occasion. We looked in CV (Del Mar Mesa) at some 8k sf homes on multiple acres that fit our needs too.
I have a collegue who lives in Poway (the Heritage) near the area I was looking and he is giving me some pointers as he has lived in that subdivision previously as well.
SD Realtor, no not that one. There are a few in there for sale. They look nice in the pics. Apparently. I noticed one particularly nice one has been the topic of dicussion on this board before and has a sorted history. Too bad.
raptorduck
ParticipantIt was my wife’s idea, not mine. For me, seems way too far for my commute and likely too hot during the summer. Convenience of a location is an important thing to me. My wife is a stay at home mom, so for her it is community.
I am not so concerned with reputation and appearances. Poway looks like the kind of area I would like, except that it is farther from the coast and my job than I would like. I like RSF, not because it has a certain reputation and improves my “appearence,” but because it is exactly what I am looking for, close to work and water, large private homes on large private lots, great schools, great weather. La Jolla and Del Mar have that “cache” too, but we are not looking there, other than Del Mar east of 5 on occasion. We looked in CV (Del Mar Mesa) at some 8k sf homes on multiple acres that fit our needs too.
I have a collegue who lives in Poway (the Heritage) near the area I was looking and he is giving me some pointers as he has lived in that subdivision previously as well.
SD Realtor, no not that one. There are a few in there for sale. They look nice in the pics. Apparently. I noticed one particularly nice one has been the topic of dicussion on this board before and has a sorted history. Too bad.
raptorduck
ParticipantIt was my wife’s idea, not mine. For me, seems way too far for my commute and likely too hot during the summer. Convenience of a location is an important thing to me. My wife is a stay at home mom, so for her it is community.
I am not so concerned with reputation and appearances. Poway looks like the kind of area I would like, except that it is farther from the coast and my job than I would like. I like RSF, not because it has a certain reputation and improves my “appearence,” but because it is exactly what I am looking for, close to work and water, large private homes on large private lots, great schools, great weather. La Jolla and Del Mar have that “cache” too, but we are not looking there, other than Del Mar east of 5 on occasion. We looked in CV (Del Mar Mesa) at some 8k sf homes on multiple acres that fit our needs too.
I have a collegue who lives in Poway (the Heritage) near the area I was looking and he is giving me some pointers as he has lived in that subdivision previously as well.
SD Realtor, no not that one. There are a few in there for sale. They look nice in the pics. Apparently. I noticed one particularly nice one has been the topic of dicussion on this board before and has a sorted history. Too bad.
raptorduck
ParticipantIt was my wife’s idea, not mine. For me, seems way too far for my commute and likely too hot during the summer. Convenience of a location is an important thing to me. My wife is a stay at home mom, so for her it is community.
I am not so concerned with reputation and appearances. Poway looks like the kind of area I would like, except that it is farther from the coast and my job than I would like. I like RSF, not because it has a certain reputation and improves my “appearence,” but because it is exactly what I am looking for, close to work and water, large private homes on large private lots, great schools, great weather. La Jolla and Del Mar have that “cache” too, but we are not looking there, other than Del Mar east of 5 on occasion. We looked in CV (Del Mar Mesa) at some 8k sf homes on multiple acres that fit our needs too.
I have a collegue who lives in Poway (the Heritage) near the area I was looking and he is giving me some pointers as he has lived in that subdivision previously as well.
SD Realtor, no not that one. There are a few in there for sale. They look nice in the pics. Apparently. I noticed one particularly nice one has been the topic of dicussion on this board before and has a sorted history. Too bad.
raptorduck
ParticipantIt was my wife’s idea, not mine. For me, seems way too far for my commute and likely too hot during the summer. Convenience of a location is an important thing to me. My wife is a stay at home mom, so for her it is community.
I am not so concerned with reputation and appearances. Poway looks like the kind of area I would like, except that it is farther from the coast and my job than I would like. I like RSF, not because it has a certain reputation and improves my “appearence,” but because it is exactly what I am looking for, close to work and water, large private homes on large private lots, great schools, great weather. La Jolla and Del Mar have that “cache” too, but we are not looking there, other than Del Mar east of 5 on occasion. We looked in CV (Del Mar Mesa) at some 8k sf homes on multiple acres that fit our needs too.
I have a collegue who lives in Poway (the Heritage) near the area I was looking and he is giving me some pointers as he has lived in that subdivision previously as well.
SD Realtor, no not that one. There are a few in there for sale. They look nice in the pics. Apparently. I noticed one particularly nice one has been the topic of dicussion on this board before and has a sorted history. Too bad.
raptorduck
ParticipantWhile your post may appear selfish and a bit hipocritical at first (having your own kids but hesitating if a guy has his own), that kind of blunt honesty is what all those kids deserve. At least you are thinking about the fact that he has kids, rather than not giving it any attention, which is indeed selfish. So I don’t fault you for your view for that reason.
When I dated, if I met a woman with kids, I would not want to meet those kids until I felt it could be serious. Single moms are sacred. I would never just casually date a single mom. While I think you are dating her AND her kids, the risk of they becomming attached to a surrogate parent (depending on whether their dad is still in their lives) is significant. If it became serious, then I would need to realize that I am entering a relationship with them just as much as their mom. Some people are not ready for that, whether they have their own kids or not. Step parenting is no walk in the park.
If I were a single dad, and a woman hestitated if I had kids, I would want her to tell me and move on and would appreciate her for it doing so.
TG’s approach is a very noble one. Not many people can do that.
raptorduck
ParticipantWhile your post may appear selfish and a bit hipocritical at first (having your own kids but hesitating if a guy has his own), that kind of blunt honesty is what all those kids deserve. At least you are thinking about the fact that he has kids, rather than not giving it any attention, which is indeed selfish. So I don’t fault you for your view for that reason.
When I dated, if I met a woman with kids, I would not want to meet those kids until I felt it could be serious. Single moms are sacred. I would never just casually date a single mom. While I think you are dating her AND her kids, the risk of they becomming attached to a surrogate parent (depending on whether their dad is still in their lives) is significant. If it became serious, then I would need to realize that I am entering a relationship with them just as much as their mom. Some people are not ready for that, whether they have their own kids or not. Step parenting is no walk in the park.
If I were a single dad, and a woman hestitated if I had kids, I would want her to tell me and move on and would appreciate her for it doing so.
TG’s approach is a very noble one. Not many people can do that.
raptorduck
ParticipantWhile your post may appear selfish and a bit hipocritical at first (having your own kids but hesitating if a guy has his own), that kind of blunt honesty is what all those kids deserve. At least you are thinking about the fact that he has kids, rather than not giving it any attention, which is indeed selfish. So I don’t fault you for your view for that reason.
When I dated, if I met a woman with kids, I would not want to meet those kids until I felt it could be serious. Single moms are sacred. I would never just casually date a single mom. While I think you are dating her AND her kids, the risk of they becomming attached to a surrogate parent (depending on whether their dad is still in their lives) is significant. If it became serious, then I would need to realize that I am entering a relationship with them just as much as their mom. Some people are not ready for that, whether they have their own kids or not. Step parenting is no walk in the park.
If I were a single dad, and a woman hestitated if I had kids, I would want her to tell me and move on and would appreciate her for it doing so.
TG’s approach is a very noble one. Not many people can do that.
raptorduck
ParticipantWhile your post may appear selfish and a bit hipocritical at first (having your own kids but hesitating if a guy has his own), that kind of blunt honesty is what all those kids deserve. At least you are thinking about the fact that he has kids, rather than not giving it any attention, which is indeed selfish. So I don’t fault you for your view for that reason.
When I dated, if I met a woman with kids, I would not want to meet those kids until I felt it could be serious. Single moms are sacred. I would never just casually date a single mom. While I think you are dating her AND her kids, the risk of they becomming attached to a surrogate parent (depending on whether their dad is still in their lives) is significant. If it became serious, then I would need to realize that I am entering a relationship with them just as much as their mom. Some people are not ready for that, whether they have their own kids or not. Step parenting is no walk in the park.
If I were a single dad, and a woman hestitated if I had kids, I would want her to tell me and move on and would appreciate her for it doing so.
TG’s approach is a very noble one. Not many people can do that.
raptorduck
ParticipantWhile your post may appear selfish and a bit hipocritical at first (having your own kids but hesitating if a guy has his own), that kind of blunt honesty is what all those kids deserve. At least you are thinking about the fact that he has kids, rather than not giving it any attention, which is indeed selfish. So I don’t fault you for your view for that reason.
When I dated, if I met a woman with kids, I would not want to meet those kids until I felt it could be serious. Single moms are sacred. I would never just casually date a single mom. While I think you are dating her AND her kids, the risk of they becomming attached to a surrogate parent (depending on whether their dad is still in their lives) is significant. If it became serious, then I would need to realize that I am entering a relationship with them just as much as their mom. Some people are not ready for that, whether they have their own kids or not. Step parenting is no walk in the park.
If I were a single dad, and a woman hestitated if I had kids, I would want her to tell me and move on and would appreciate her for it doing so.
TG’s approach is a very noble one. Not many people can do that.
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