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Participant[quote=scaredyclassic]130k seems so low.
Will be nice when trump dies. Big street parties.
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I’m not saying that he’s any good, but do you think we’d get someone better? How is it that Americans are fascinated with celebrities (Trump was in a sense), such as Oprah, as Presidential candidates? I kept thinking that after Trump there might be a pendulum swing back toward a Democratic candidate more like Jimmy Carter (minus the Billy Beer, etc.).
ParticipantTo me it seems as though there hasn’t been any genuine effort to economically address the situation. The Philadelphia Housing Authority built 88 units for $35 million, or $400,000 per unit. http://aldianews.com/articles/politics/housing/pha-2015-88-units-35-million-and-dawn-sharswood/41835
On the other hand, these 2 bed/ 2 bath units are being sold commercially in Philadelphia (presumably at a profit) for a little over $200,000: https://www.realtor.com/realestateandhomes-detail/512-W-Montgomery-Ave-B1_Philadelphia_PA_19122_M44610-99262
It reminds me of a high school built in NJ in about 2010 at a cost of $185 million (or about $462/sq ft). It still is one of the most expensive public high schools ever built and is currently ranked by at least one source as the 36th worst high school in NJ. http://newbrunswicktoday.com/article/nj-monthly-ranks-new-brunswick-high-school-36th-worst-nj
I don’t have an answer to the problem – but throwing money at it in the form of housing vouchers doesn’t seem to be working: https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2015/06/section-8-is-failing/396650/
Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]About real Estate, tenants must get permission from landlords.
Does anyone know the language to allow or forbid pot/drugs?My for rent ads always say “absolutely no drugs/pot” but I never had anything in the rental agreement. I’m thinking best to prohibit to avoid any liability; and if they smoke without permission, you have one more reason to terminate if needed.[/quote]
WRT pot, I would include it in the no smoking rules that I would assume you already have in place. Frankly, I would worry about the fire issue more than the smell. Also, my guess is that you could use the security deposit to rehabilitate the smell in the apartment after they leave as well (assuming that they smoke in violation of the rental agreement). I don’t practice real estate law, though, so you should check that one out.
Participant[quote=spdrun]If one takes Tylenol every day, they likely suffer from liver or kidney problems as well.[/quote]
Liver. Acetaminophen is the most common cause of acute liver failure in the U.S. https://emedicine.medscape.com/article/820200-overview
No effect on kidneys unless liver is already dying.But pot likely causes depression and helps in the development of mental illness, so, literally, pick your poison.
Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]
I think people who buy 500 pill jars of Tylenol for pain at Costco will graduate to smoking pot and eating pot infused cookies.[/quote]
I don’t go to Costco, but I do buy large jars of Tylenol (actually, generic acetaminophen) because I’m cheap. It lasts forever. No interest in pot. Plus, since I practice federal law, I have to be very careful. http://www.callawyer.com/2016/12/attorneys-and-marijuana/
Participant[quote=zk]
While never approaching a woman regarding sex in this scenario might be a wise policy, should it really be required? Is there a way to approach a woman in that situation without putting her in a position that you shouldn’t put her in? I mean, even if you say, “yes, I’m Matt Lauer. I can make or break your career. But I won’t. A “no” from you won’t be a problem for you.” Even if you say something like that, there’s a chance they’ll feel pressured anyway.[/quote]
I didn’t catch all of this before. I sort of question your premise, as most companies have a policy such as this: https://www.shrm.org/resourcesandtools/tools-and-samples/policies/pages/cms_006713.aspx
Also – “there’s a chance”? I can guarantee that person would feel pressured. To analogize – your boss comes up to you and asks to borrow $10,000 at a reasonable interest rate and also says it’s ok to say no. HA.
If you are saying that it’s a shame that life’s not fair – I agree.
Participant[quote=zk]Back to the subject of sexual misconduct.
Scenario:
You’re a guy like, say, Matt Lauer. You’re rich, famous, and good-looking. There are a lot of women out there who want to have sex with you. Even sex with no strings. And, of course, a lot who don’t.
And you’re also in a position of power. You can make or break careers.
Are you required to never approach a woman at work regarding sex? Are you required never to approach any woman in your entire field? It seems any approach would put the woman in a position that so many women have found themselves in. They think (some of them correctly) that refusing could hurt their careers. So they say yes, even though they don’t want to.
What if a woman is giving you “the signals?” Signals, Jerry, signals!! What if she’s got the semaphore flags out, with her arms fully extended and waving fiercely, flags making all kinds of noise as she flaps them around, and a look on her face that says, “look! I’m right here! I’m waving these flags at you!” You can’t act on that without risking your own career. You could say, “it appears you want to have sex with me. Is that correct?” Even if you say that (and on the off chance it doesn’t kill the mood), you’re still the one bringing it up and asking the woman to have sex (presumably asking, if she says that you are correct). What if she’s giving more subtle signals? You sure as hell don’t want to screw with that. What if she walks right up to you, unbeckoned, and says, “I want to have sex with you right now in that storeroom right there?”
While never approaching a woman regarding sex in this scenario might be a wise policy, should it really be required? Is there a way to approach a woman in that situation without putting her in a position that you shouldn’t put her in? I mean, even if you say, “yes, I’m Matt Lauer. I can make or break your career. But I won’t. A “no” from you won’t be a problem for you.” Even if you say something like that, there’s a chance they’ll feel pressured anyway.[/quote]
1. Where did the media come up with the idea that Matt Lauer is good looking?
2. Yes. If you want to avoid damage to your career, don’t “sleep where you eat.” Interestingly, this is a quote from a man who, while I was a summer associate at a law firm, slid up next to me on a banquette at a restaurant (it was a firm function) grabbed my thigh and said “how’s it going, baby cakes?” Later at another firm function when I was an associate, he invited me to join him on his motor cycle and said “best way I know to make partner.” A male friend of mine who was having trouble making partner (and to whom I feel much appreciation to this day) yelled “REALLY??” and jumped on the back of the bike 🙂 .
3. Even if she’s giving this hypothetical guy “the signals” – everyone knows that work relationships rarely end up well, and problems are almost unavoidable. Why open yourself up for that? Other than small town USA, most often the fraction of available women who aren’t coworkers is going to be at least 99%. And, on a more practical note, dating at work has some scary downstream results. Do you really want all of the women at work to know your intimate secrets? You know how women talk ;).
4. There are temptations in life – you can choose to resist or give in, but the result is yours and you have to deal with it. It’s like my kids saying that they didn’t do their homework because they couldn’t resist going to a social event. This problem is as old as the hills – Biblical even (see: Potiphar’s wife – although this was a circumstance where the victim couldn’t have avoided the situation he was in). Bottom line – you and you alone need to take responsibility for your own well being.
Of course, none of this condones people making false allegations. ….
ParticipantYou’d have to have a heck of a well and pump to actually pump enough water to fight a fire. If you needed to rely on a well for water to use in case of a fire, you’d have a water tower where you’d pump water somewhat slowly and store it. In areas where people are on well and septic (such as NJ) there was piped in water to supply the hydrants. Of course, there were some places that didn’t have the piping and didn’t have hydrants – it was more expensive to get insurance there. But then, the firefighters and EMS people were all volunteer and not intensively trained, so I don’t know whether the water was really the issue. . .
In terms of SDGE – you can’t have it both ways. Opposite courses of action cannot both be considered negligent. This sounds like a circumstance where there should be some sort of policy and then publicly funded insurance for whatever poor outcome arises (like vaccines).
Participant[quote=Rich Toscano]I might have to add this to my spdisms list
[quote=Rich Toscano]spdisms
OP: Can anyone recommend a smartphone?
spdrun: You don’t need a smart phone; carry flags for semaphore and build your own mainframe from chicken bones and discarded Atari 2600 parts. NEXT!OP: How much do you typically pay a gardener?
spdrun: You don’t need a gardener; grow your own topiary maze and painstakingly, over the course of many years, train an army of voles to maintain it. NEXT!OP: What’s everyone’s favorite pasta recipe?
spdrun: Only chumps eat solid food; you should become a being of pure energy and feed on sound waves. NEXT!OP: Is this a good time to buy a house?
spdrun: If you live in a house you are an idiot. You should live in your car, which, if it’s not a 1984 Datsun 200SX, you are also an idiot. BOOM! MIC DROP, SMOKE BOMB, EXIT STAGE RIGHT![/quote][/quote]That is the best laugh I’ve had in a long time. My husband almost spit out his coffee. My incredibly commercialiistic tree is now happily settling into its highly unnatural stand, awaiting, and this is not an exaggeration, the 4000 or so twinkle lights that I put on it each year. I’m sure there are many more socially and environmentally responsible things that I could do with my time and money, but rather than consider that I’m going to go make peanut brittle and Christmas cookies and buy stuff online for my kids. And I’m going to try, likely without success, to get said kids to put a whole bunch of tinsel on the stairway. Spdrun, I’m beyond salvation – but you can go peddle your worldview to others who will appreciate it. Once again – I encourage you to read A Confederacy of Dunces – you’ll appreciate the main character, described in Wikipedia as “—eccentric, idealistic, and creative, sometimes to the point of delusion”. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Confederacy_of_Dunces
Participant[quote=spdrun]Artificial tree and a few natural wreaths for scent … no point in sacrificing a living thing for a commercialistic holiday.[/quote]
I just knew it. I don’t think you understand Christmas. The trees, like your food, are grown for consumption. The trees would not exist were it not for people like me.
Participant[quote=spdrun]Both men and women are interested in sex. It’s OK. We’re designed to be. If G-d didn’t intend us to enjoy it, she’d have designed us to work something like: we need to have sex, or we die. (Sort of like ferrets, or Vulcan Pon Farr.)
Stop conditioning women that interest in sex is something bad, evil, or “slutty.” There’s nothing wrong with being interested in sex — in fact, this country would likely be a better place if people have more time for good sex (and proper knowledge of/lack of shame about birth control).
Why the Puritanical view that sex is something people should be less interested in? The issue is CONSENT, not sex. If women were conditioned to be more clear about what they wanted and when the were interested, things would be a lot less ambiguous regarding consent.[/quote]
It’s not conditioning, it’s biology. To take the evolutionary biology approach, as you seem to be doing, think about the strategy that each gender would use to transmit the highest number of offspring into the next reproducing generation. For a long time sex equaled babies and pregnancy was a dangerous thing. A friend of mind from Java said that there was a saying that a pregnant woman has one foot in the grave (obviously very recent advances in medicine have changed this, but that has not had time to have an evolutionary effect.) Women have been bred to be picky – there are much higher risks. Read The Selfish Gene (Richard Dawkins) https://www.amazon.com/Selfish-Gene-Popular-Science/dp/0192860925/ref=nodl_
Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]I read a little more about sexual harassment.
A hostile environment is created when sexual advances are unwelcomed. The unwelcomeness is the key. And that’s the problem with old men making sexual advances. There is creep and hostile factor.
it is not necessary for the victim of sexual harassment to expressly object to the conduct if a reasonable person would understand the behavior to be offensive and sexual in content.[/quote]
This quote (based on a 2016 study) explains at least part of the problem: “Heterosexual men consistently overestimate a woman’s sexual interest, according to new research..” https://www.google.com/amp/www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/why-some-men-always-think-women-are-interested-in-them-a6869826.html%3famp
I suppose there is probably a correlative study somewhere that says “Heterosexual woman consistently overestimate men’s interest in taking them out for dinner and talking about their friends from spin class” or similar. There are other factors, naturally. But that one is a real problem.
Participant[quote=zk][quote=njtosd]You poor guys – and I include Brian because he is just expressing the full-of-himself view that he always does – you’re missing out: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201511/how-gratitude-leads-happier-life%5B/quote%5D
I didn’t say I’m not grateful. I said I am grateful. I’m grateful to random chance. Seriously. I have a lot of wonderful things in my life. And they’re all due to random chance. Random chance has been very, very good to me.
I’m aware that I’m lucky. I’m lucky I was born a white, intelligent, good-looking (when I was younger) male to upper-class parents in the United States in the middle of the twentieth century. Those are seven huge advantages, and I’m not responsible for any of them. Random chance is.
I’m aware that I wouldn’t have the life I have now without random chance being good to me. And I am thankful for that.[/quote]
So you are saying that you were lucky to be a white male rather than ….. what? Because the alternative (a non white woman – gasp) would be unlucky?
ParticipantYou poor guys – and I include Brian because he is just expressing the full-of-himself view that he always does – you’re missing out: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201511/how-gratitude-leads-happier-life
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